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I have a lot of questions and I am often surprised by what I find. This is why I decided to start this blog. It’s about all the questions I have, and all the responses I get. If you want to talk about your officiant or officiating experience, there are a lot of places to go. I hope you find this site to be helpful.
Well, I hope we’ve been helpful to you. If you have a question, or want to talk about your officiant experience, maybe it’s time to start a new blog. Here, you can ask questions and I’ll try to answer them. And if you want to chat, go to the chatroom.
I’m not sure how many of my readers read this blog. But I have to note that this blog is my opinion. I don’t know you, so don’t take my response as a personal attack, just that I don’t agree with something you said.
So I’ll just give you a brief rundown for those who don’t know me. I’m a 30-something year old married woman originally from Canada. I’ve been a minister for over 9 years, and as of this writing I’m doing my third. I’ve also had the privilege of being married to the love of my life for the last 8 years, and I have three wonderful children (2 adopted, and a new grandson).
My first marriage was very short, but I know that all marriages are short. I am happy to say that I met my current husband in that short marriage. Because I was young, and single, I was able to find a man who was willing to consider me for my life when I was a teenager, and so after my first marriage I was able to find a man who was willing to consider me for my life now.
I can’t imagine what it was like for you growing up without a mom or dad. If you have a mom or dad, it’s hard to imagine them being able to come to a wedding or have you and your mom and dad be the ones who make the long trip to the registry. Also, I can’t imagine you being the one who’s the one who always has to take off your shoes to get into your new outfit.
I don’t even want to imagine all the things I could have done with the man I was with for 20+ years. I know I was a terrible wife, but I was also a terrible mother. I was an even worse friend. I was an even worse friend and a bad wife. I made my marriage and my friends lives miserable and I knew it. But I guess I wasn’t the one who got to pick the ring.
The truth is, I loved my husband, I love him still, and I never really got to choose from the hundreds of people that married me. I was married before to the one person who I thought would love me forever, and when I found out that he passed away, I was devastated. I was devastated by the way he treated me, by the way he treated his friends, and by how much I loved his sister.
I know how you feel, and I’m not surprised that so many couples choose to marry at a point in their lives where they don’t know if they’ll ever get married. For some couples, the question of whether or not to marry at all, can be overwhelming. It may seem like there aren’t enough options, that there is no way to choose wisely, and that marriage can be a scary journey. But there is.
I got married about three years ago and have been with my husband for three years. No matter what, I always feel a little bit like I need to have a “right” answer. Marriage is such a big decision and I’m not sure that anyone really knows what they would do with all this information. But they are wrong, and I’m okay with that.